Divorce sucks.

So having dinner with H tonight I got to get the update on the divorce situation.  I was good friends with both her and C, and worked for C at several locations over the years.  But since the separation a few years ago I just haven’t had the desire to remain in close contact with him.  I love him like a brother, always have.  But every single time I have seen him since the split he has insulted me, offended me, made me cry, insulted my friends, my family, and my character.  I just cannot take it any more, so I don’t go to any efforts to speak to him any longer.  I have heard from him exactly once in the last two (three?) years, when he called my office at 530pm on a Saturday in a drunken stupor and left a long garbling message.  I know he has complained to his sister that I have been letting him down as a friend, but after the last encounter I just couldn’t bring myself to go through that any more.

And this is the clincher.  H and mother of child #3, J, are trying to prove that he is an unfit parent.  Two weeks ago they went to pick up the kids and were convinced that C had been drinking.  C, determined to prove that he was sober, called the cops himself to prove that he was sober.  J and H just found out the results this week.

He blew a 0.16 on the breathalyser–twice.  That’s 2x the legal limit.  And he flunked the eye exam.

So today, H had to tell the kids that they wouldn’t be seeing their father for awhile because he was sick.  And the youngest, S, asked if that was why daddy was shouting and so mad all the time.  It just breaks my heart.  And H, bless her heart, has really held it together well for the kids.  I’m not so sure I’d be that good in her shoes.

Divorce just sucks for kids that age.

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Thunder, Lightning, and no Rain

I’m sitting in my recliner, typing away, and there is the most fantastic thunderstorm going on outside.  Only there is no rain.  Lightning, rumbling, heavy claps of thunder, and not a drop of water anywhere.  Still kind of cool, though!  Plus it made the temperature drop by several degrees, which I always like!  The thunder and lightning got heavy enough that I even had to get out of the hammock and come inside for the night.

So today I had to work up north at one of our satellite locations and lord almighty I was tired by 1pm.  Getting up at 6 just doesn’t agree with me.  Plus, I haven’t waited tables in about 3 years, and I have lost my legs!  I ran my rear off, trying to make sure that I was able to help as much as possible without getting in the way.  When things slowed down for a few minutes I realized exactly how much I hurt.  We had a good time, though, and L and I yapped the whole way home so that I wouldn’t fall asleep we were so tired!  I got home at 3, and thought I was going to pass out from exhaustion but I knew I was meeting H and the kids for dinner at that gastronomic delight, Cici’s Pizza.

We actually had a great time.  We were there for almost 2 hours, and each of the kids gave me a plant for my birthday.  I can’t wait to plant the lily in the front yard, but have no idea where to plant S’s zinnia that I won’t kill it.  And H gave me Othello, that great game from our childhood (and one I surprisingly don’t have).  The kids wanted to play, so I sat at the restaurant and played a game with each of them, to teach them the game.  Like I said, we had a great time.  Plus, hey, cheap date!

And if I don’t eat pizza for another six months, I think that would be just fine by me.